Install an SSH client on your Windows machine. As a user, the best non-free one I have found is from SecureCRT from https://www.vandyke.com/. Another option is f-secure from https://www.f-secure.com/. You can also find some free ones on Google at https://directory.google.com/Top/Computers/Security/Products_and_Tools/Cryptography/SSH/Clients/Windows/.

Start your Windows SSH client. Set Host_Name = yourmysqlserver_URL_or_IP. Set userid=your_userid to log in to your server. This userid value might not be the same as the username of your MySQL account.

Set up port forwarding. Either do a remote forward (Set local_port: 3306, remote_host: yourmysqlservername_or_ip, remote_port: 3306 ) or a local forward (Set port: 3306, host: localhost, remote port: 3306).

Save everything, otherwise you will have to redo it the next time.

Log in to your server with the SSH session you just created.

On your Windows machine, start some ODBC application (such as Access).

Create a new file in Windows and link to MySQL using the ODBC driver the same way you normally do, except type in localhost for the MySQL host server, not yourmysqlservername.